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A psychologists who works with children in Sydney’s northern beaches says that while it is normal for children to occasionally become bored with one another, time spent with siblings is an important part of building family relationships and teaching kids to co-operate, respect and compromise with others.
Brothers and sisters can be great friends and playmates, but by the second half of the school holidays, even the closest of sibling relationships can become strained.
‘Many parents spend a lot of holiday time and money rushing from one activity to the next trying to keep their children amused,’ psychologist Louella Covich said.
‘Before they know it, everyone is overtired, overstretched and overspent. It’s easy to forget that the holidays are about being together.’
‘Kids don’t always want material things. More often than not, all they want is to be with you.’
The key to harmonious school holidays
Louella suggests that keeping kids happy and occupied during the holidays requires creativity and planning.
‘Children aged between 5 and 12 are used to the structure of their school day and sometimes the lack of routine during the school holidays can unsettle them,’ she said.
She recommends that each day should contain a combination of indoor and outdoor activities so that children have a healthy mix of active and quiet play.
Combine indoor and outdoor activities
“In warm weather, kids need to swim, jump and run around, but a full day in the hot sun can result in tired children who fight and squabble,’ she said.
‘An hour or so of outside fun, broken up with short bursts of indoor activity usually helps to keep everyone calm and happy.’
In colder weather, Louella suggests that kids should rug up and play outside if the day is fine.
‘Here in Australia, our winters are relatively mild. If your child is wearing a beanie and warm clothing, the only thing that should interrupt outside play is wet weather.’
Kids need physical activity
Louella said that children’s bodies need, and are used to, physical activity.
‘When kids are at school, their day is broken up by recess and lunch-times which give them a chance to move.’
‘Even though it’s tempting to let them chill out in from of the TV, computer or iPad on a cold day, it’s actually really important for parents to break school holiday days up with opportunities for active play, because getting out and about supports children’s mood and behaviour.’
School holiday ideas – Outside play
Louella’s ideas for outdoor activities include;
- regular visits to the beach, lake or river
- play at a nearby park
- bike riding
- walking pets
- playing ball games in the backyard or at a local sports ground
- flying a kite
- going for a bushwalk
Drawing with chalk on the driveway and using buckets of water and old paintbrushes to ‘paint’ the garden fence are other creative and inexpensive suggestions for keeping children happy and engaged.
‘Cubby houses are also a perennial favourite and are great for imaginative play,’ commented Louella.
‘A beach sun shelter or tree draped with old sheets will give kids hours of fun and won’t cost a cent.’
‘Camping out in a backyard tent is also an exciting adventure for kids of all ages.’
School holiday ideas – Inside play
Louella’s indoor activity list includes:
- simple art and craft activities like painting, colouring and making gift cards
- treasure hunts
- strategic, storytelling card games like Pokemon, Yughio or Magic
- building an ‘inside cubby’ under a table covered with blankets
Playing with cars, dolls, dress ups, board games and construction toys like Lego are also popular pastimes, as are visits to grandparents or another special friend.
Louella said that the internet is a great source of inspiration for innovative indoor play ideas.
‘All mums and dads need to do is google and they’ll be presented with lots of activities that will help keep sibling rivalry at bay.’
School holiday socialising
Louella suggests that movie marathons with popcorn are a relaxing way to spend an afternoon and are particularly useful when kids are tired and need a break during the school holidays.
Her practical tips for parents also include organising play dates with friends, neighbours and cousins.
She recommends inviting a visitor for each child in the family so that brothers and sisters each have someone special to play with and will be less inclined to intrude on their siblings’ play.
‘Play dates do not have to be for the whole day,’ she said. “Children get just as much enjoyment from seeing their friends for a couple of hours as they do from a full day.’
Louella advises that shorter play dates can reduce the risk of sibling conflict and often help parents get through key points in the day when children are hungry, tired or bored.
‘Sometimes, inviting a friend over for a mid-morning play and a special lunch works well.’
‘For other kids, a mid-afternoon play from 2pm until 4pm will keep them happily occupied in the period before their evening routines begin.’
Get the mix right to make school holidays memorable
According to Louella, surviving the school holidays is simply a matter of getting the mix right.
‘Going to the movies, workshops and other outings are all great fun, but having the freedom to enjoy being at home is important for children,’ she said.
‘When our kids are grown up and look back on their childhoods, what they did with their brothers and sisters during holiday time will provide some of their strongest memories.’
‘With a bit of creativity and thought from parents, there’s every chance that those memories can be fond ones.’
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