Chaotic mornings, afternoon meltdowns and bedtime arguments…sound familiar?
For children with autism, transitions from one part of the day to another can be particularly trying, and when everyone is tired, hungry or in a hurry, emotions can run high.
So how can you, as a busy parent, meet your child’s needs in a way that will keep everyone calm? According to Sonja Walker, Founder and Director of Kids First Children’s Services, the answer is having routines.
Just as you have processes and procedures that streamline your life at work, predictable routines make life easier for kids at home.
If you don’t like having surprises sprung on you, then chance are your autistic child (well, any child really) doesn’t appreciate it either!
You can set your child up for success every day by using a variety of techniques that will help your child to be more certain, and less susceptible to emotional overloads.
1. Create a visual timetable
Young children and those with special needs such as autism, Down Syndrome, language and other developmental delays find this visual approach very helpful. You can use free resources like clip art or google images to makes it easy to predict when activities like shopping, going to kindy, afternoon tea and rest time will take place. Another great tip is to laminate your pictures so that they’ll wear well, then stick velcro dots on the back. This will enable you to make an easy chart and as each activity is completed, your child will enjoy putting the picture in a ‘finished’ box. This helps kids get closure on one activity and helps them to move on tot eh next
2. Use Apps to create a portable visual schedule
Who knew that your phone could enhance your child’s emotional resilience? Apps like First Then Visual Schedule and Model Me Going Places are a great way to help children to understand what is happening next, and the best thing about apps is that they’re usually cheap, instant and you can use them wherever you are
3. Use a white board
For children who can read, it is helpful to have a simple daily schedule that they can refer to and tick off as each task is completed. Morning routines might consist of very specific behaviours like:
1. Put my uniform on
2. Eat my cereal and drink my juice
3. Wash my teeth
4. Pack my school bag
5. Leave by 8.15am
Afternoon routines can be organised in a similar way. Remember, many kids find it hard to keep it all together during a long day at school – so if you want to keep your household’s emotional temperature down in the hours between home time and bed time, make your expectations clear and keep it simple
4. Share your routines with people who care for your child
One easy way to stress children with autism out is to force them to do the same thing in different ways. You can avoid your child’s confusion looking for ways of to maintain the routines you use at home in your child’s preschool or long day care centre the routine in any early childhood programs or schools that your child attends
5. Stop talking
It might sound strange, but international research suggests that we adults overload children with too much talk. If you, like me, are a ‘traffic cop’ kind of mum who is always giving directions and ensuring that compliance has been achieved, why not ease up a little and lessen your child’s language load? Children with autism can find it particularly hard to process multiple instructions, so slow down, support them with visuals and use a low vocal tone so that you don’t escalate their emotions further.
© 2015 Kids First Children’s Services
Kids First’s experienced team of speech pathologists, occupational therapists, child psychologists and teachers have supported hundreds of children with autism and we would be delighted to speak with you about your child’s needs.
You’ll find us in Brookvale in Sydney’s northern beaches. Call us on (02) 9938 5419 or email us on email@example.com to make an appointment to speak with a member of the Kids First team